My D lost a close friend a few weeks ago in an accident, and another was severely injured. The first week afterward seemed to be a blur, what with visiting the hospital, giving police statements, etc. Now the campus is settling back into normal, but my D is still grieving pretty hard. She called us last night and said that there's a big hole for her. It tends to hit her at night. She's got a couple of friends she can talk to, but she really misses us and is eager to be home for Thanksgiving. She did come home the weekend after it happened and I got her some counseling.
What I didn't expect was how hard this whole thing would be on me. It pains me deeply to see her so upset, and I think about her friend every day and the unfairness of it all. I didn't know her friend, but from what I've learned he was exactly the kind of person I would have wanted her to hang out with. He had a bright future ahead of him.
Has anyone helped their child deal with this kind of tragedy from afar? It's very upsetting to me that she's having to deal with this without me there. Does it get better? Her other friend is recovering well and should be back on campus soon, which will help her enormously.
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