16yr S (sophomore) is so different from D who is senior and so driven and I don't know what to do. He maintains above 3.0gpa with a minimum amount of work and shows no motivation/drive to do better at quiz/tests to improve his grades. He shows an interest in going to college but no particular school or major in mind and 'I don't care' attitude is just driving me nuts. If we let him, he would play a computer game all day long. He goes to a small private school and involves in 3 different varsity sports and even went state twice (XC runner). Black belt Tae Kwon Doo and almost done with his Eagle project. But I wouldn't call he loves any of this stuff he does. Do you have a kid like this? Is he going to grow up eventually and realize this is his life and he has to put effort to make things happen? I am tired of keeping 'encouraging' him (without much positive results) and tired of worrying about 'what if' (i.e. gpa going downhill as things get tougher, decide college is not for him without any clear alternatives, going college but a lack of work ethics catches up with him and can't make it through, etc. etc). Am I just too pessimistic? I am really stressed out. Any words of wisdom from the veteran parents who might have gone through similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.
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