My son is a freshman at a top tier school. The rush system there is very odd - informal rush (that is not so informal) all first semester followed by second semester formal rush (that is not real - because all bids are given "under the table" during first semester). If you don't have someone from your hometown to guide you - or a parent smart enough to get the lowdown before freshman year - you are sort of screwed - as was my son -because he didn't understand the process (that he needed to really put himself out there in a big way as soon as he got to campus in August). By October, he figured it out - and narrowed down to 2 houses he rushed at consistently. They never cut him - invited him to their date parties, off campus events, etc. - but for some reason, they did not bid him. One of the houses told him, they knew he was hanging out at the other house and thought he lost interest in their fraternity... Fast forward to now. He is isolating himself, I fear, because most of his friends are now pledging fraternities. I have tried to advise him to join a club, try to find other kids in his dorm to become friends with, etc. He seems to think he can just spend time in his room studying - and that when his friends are done pledging, they will all be there for him again - and he can rush again. I know he is totally wrong. But need some constructive advice. What should I tell him? How do you move forward from fraternity rejection in the best possible way?
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