For the past year D1 has been struggling with various chronic health issues and as a result has had to miss school for doctor's appointments and illness. Last semester she really struggled with keeping up with work because some of her teachers were getting angry with her and yelling at her in front of her classmates. She's always been kinda sensitive and eager to please so being talked to like that made her very anxious. Her teachers would give her a hard time for going to the nurse and talk badly about her behind her back, among other things. Throughout all this the administration has not been supportive at all. They've been manipulative and tried to control what she says. The administration has also taken the side of the teachers and refused to believe that they would ever behave unprofessionally. However despite all this she rallied and was able to finish her first semester successfully. Second semester she was doing much better and she made up work in a much more timely fashion. When she had a college visit she did her tests and quizzes in advance and did a good job communicating with the teachers. I really thought things were looking up.
Last year (her junior year) the administration made her go on a medical leave of absence and throughout this entire year they've been threatening that again. Well about a month ago they finally followed through on their threat :( They said she had missed too many days in school, most of which were for doctor's appointments. This was incredibly upsetting as she was not behind on any work and had mostly A's. They told her that she could still graduate if she completed her two English classes via email with her teachers. Since this happened my daughter has been incredibly depressed. She rarely gets up and she cries every day. She says things like, "I don't feel like myself anymore." and "What's the point of school?" She has not completed any of her school work for her English classes and has not communicated with the teachers. She says that whenever she thinks about school she becomes even more depressed and so right now she is trying to block it out and pretend like it didn't happen. D1 very much thrives on structure and social interaction and now she has neither. She doesn't talk to her friends because she feels embarrassed and doesn't want to burden them with her problems. I'm very concerned that she won't be able to complete her English classes and that she won't be able to graduate.
DD is a very smart girl and she is very excited about college. She has literally been looking forward to going to college since elementary school. She has always loved school and learning so this is completely crushing for her. I've offered to enroll in the local public school for the last month so that she can at least finish her classes. I really don't want to have to do this though because I want her to be able to graduate with her friends. I'm also worried that she will feel more isolated because she knows no one at the public school and she wouldn't have anyone to even eat lunch with there.
My number one concern however is her mental health. This has been a very rough year for her. She's been very ill, she moved for the first time after me and her father divorced, one of her good friends tried to kill herself, and she was molested by one of her physicians. Despite all this she has maintained a happy positive outlook until she was removed from school. I'm really worried because this is so much for a teenager (or anyone) to cope with.
I'm sorry that this post is so long, but if you've read all the way to the end thank you. I am at a complete loss and really need an outside perspective.
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