Hello! This forum was incredibly helpful during the college application process, and I was hoping you guys could help me one more time. I've been at college for over 3 weeks now, and I don't really love it. People here got really cliquy really fast, and while I am a social person, I somehow missed the clique forming time and am left out of the loop. My roommate and I aren't close (she prefers to stay in the room talking to her boyfriend and is kinda anti-social whenever I try to bring her out). I have friends on my floor and study groups for classes, and on weekends I can usually find a group of people to go to a party with or whatever, but everyone else is always forming plans within their group messages and sticking to their close friends and I'm left constantly tagging along or searching for things to do. No one minds having me around and people actively tell me they like me and like hanging out with me, they just tend to stick with their packs first and don't seem to feel the need to add me to the group messages and make me part of the group. I don't mean to sound like I am sitting in my room alone; I usually can find someone to get dinner with etc and hang out with, I just feel lonely because I don't belong to a group I can count on. I've been trying to get involved. I applied to a bunch of clubs (got denied from the one I wanted most that fit my interests really well) and am still waiting to hear back on the rest. I just miss my best friends and having people I can count on and that I knew wanted me around and would include me no matter what. I am lonely and tired, and instead of friends being a respite from stress, the constant struggle to make friends is making me more stressed. All my friends from home got to choose their roommates and ended up with roommates and floormates that became incredibly close. While my floor will occasionally study together, when I text about weekend plans everyone is already planning stuff with their cliques. Basically, I am the girl where when I walk across campus there are always people waving and saying hi and willing to grab coffee and stuff, but when it comes time to have a movie night or go out to dinner or hit a party together, everyone prioritizes their other friends over me. Basically, any advice you have on beating this lonliness and making a core group of friends that I can count on would be much appreciated
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