I just started my freshman year in college. After acceptances came in last spring, I was less than thrilled with where I had gotten in. However, I am now very happy where I am. I am at a well ranked public university, have made some friends, and find the classes challenging but not overwhelming (for now, of course). I spent a lot of time deciding where I wanted to go and thinking it through, and I feel that I made the best choice for myself. Unfortunately, my parents don't quite seem to agree. Although they assured me last May that they would support me wherever I went, they have made some veiled comments implying that the school I am attending isn't "good enough". They tell my younger sister (who is similar to me in stats but not interests) that she can "do much better". This is hurtful to me because I hold their opinions very highly and hoped that they wouldn't judge me for my college choices. They seem disappointed that I didn't have the "best" choices of schools, and seem especially disappointed that I turned down two schools that were higher ranked than the one I attend now (because, in their minds, I "deserve" better).
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my parents and don't feel like they're doing this out of malice. I feel like this is part of a misguided attempt to get me more motivated to get into a good graduate school. But regardless of their intentions, this hurts. It hurts to feel like the school I've come to love isn't good enough for me.
Do any parents have advice on how to approach them about their comments? Or how to deal with these comments?
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